At some point of every potentially romantic relationship in the modern day, there comes a time where talking regularly just isn’t enough anymore. You can only talk about what TV shows she loves or how much you both hate misogyny for so long until a new form of intimacy is required. That point is roughly two weeks and it’s about that time.

You decide to send the text that could elevate your relationship to the next level. “Do you want to make a collab Spotify playlist?” 

Making a shared Spotify playlist requires the same type of precision and decisiveness as a fantasy football draft. The first choices are the most important and can alone determine whether to continue this relationship or if it was doomed from the start. 

You should always let the other person add the first song. Let them set the tone. This also allows you to have an opportunity of folding before you’ve invested too much. She just added three consecutive Summer Walker songs? Go ahead and delete the whole playlist, she belongs to the streets. 

For the sake of this example, let’s say that she added any song by Mac Demarco. Being able to recognize these choices and safely respond to them by say, adding an American Football song, is the recipe for being able to convince them that you actually listen to someone other than Future.

The whole process is an ebb and flow.

I would not advise adding songs of artists you are not familiar with, just so that you can try to impress her with your knowledge of whatever random indie band you found by typing random words into Google. “Oh you like Car Seat Headrest too? I love them! What did you think of their latest song?” Now you have to make a convincing lie and act as if you didn’t pull that name from r/indie.

Add an all lowercase title with random symbols like “~just for us~”, add a frame from any Studio Ghibli movie as the picture for it and you have a perfect playlist that you will either never listen to after 4 days or will cry about every time you see her making a collab playlist with another dude.